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Tow it and they will come

Gino, another "PiT" convert

Another "PiT" convert

I don’t remember what 8 hours of sleep feels like anymore.  “Why?” you ask?  It’s called “Piano-in-Tow“.  I have spent more time on the phone, writing emails, practicing, making lists and whatever else I can think of in preparation for “PiT”.   In10 days, 1hour, 57 minutes and 1 second Penny (my trusted adviser, road manager and confidante) and I will hit the road.  First stop, Schuyler, NE where a group of 6th graders will be anticipating my arrival with a large grand piano.

Penny and I spent some time today decorating the backside of cardboard that will support my music–a couple of girls with magic markers, a box cutter, several feline assistants and lots of coffee.  A potentially very scary scene.

Then there is my father who comes into my parents’ kitchen yesterday sporting a “Piano-in-Tow” t-shirt.  May I say adorable?

I am going to play a run-through for a handful of piano students at UNL next Thursday.  It will be much easier to keep their attention than a roomful of teenagers…

I finally cleaned the grime off of the Yamaha’s keys today.  At least 10 years’ worth of it…

So, everyone, keep your fingers crossed that I don’t break a piano string between here and Petersburg, NE…

Penny and Rafaella working together on "PiT"

Penny and Rafaella working together on "PiT"

My Berber Day

My new Moroccan friend MohamedAlthough I didn’t expect our side trip to Morocco to be life-changing, I think it was and I am anxious to go back to this beautiful country. My parents and I flew to Casablanca (or Cazablanca as it is said in Arabic) and drove from there to Marrakech.

Our days in Marrakech were very nice,  but our time spent in the high Atlas mountains proved to be absolutely unique. 

We stayed at a lovely hotel nestled into a hill just above the river that runs through Asni valley.  Hanging out at the hotel our entire visit would have been fine.  But on my last day there, I was escorted around the valley by an employee of the hotel, a Berber-born and raised gentleman named Mohamed.  He offered to escort us to the Saturday market down in Asni Central – an opportunity to experience an Berber market first hand.

Saturday morning, Mohamed showed up at the hotel, having hitched a ride on a local taxi.  From there, the four of us headed down the mountain to the market. On the way there, we passed by his home so he invited us in for a snack and mint tea. After the brief repast (and an opportunity to meet some family members), we continued on to the market.  The market experience deserves its own essay so I will be brief here. There were so many unique things to see and smell and touch in the market including a typical “Berber parking lot” (a hundred tethered donkeys waiting for their owners to fill their packs and head home).

We must have looked every bit the tourists,  as we were approached by several men intent on talking us out of some of our dirham. In the market, Mohamed helped me buy a 2 kilo cone of sugar (which I hauled back to America just because I wanted to), an authentic tagine (traditional Moroccan cooking vessel) and a suitcase (!) for my parents.

When we finished exploring the market, my parents headed back up the mountain in a taxi. It was my plan to walk back. Mohamed took me aside and asked if I would go to an internet café because he wanted to show me a website. After we spent time looking at websites (I helped translate some of the English), I thought surely I would head home. Nothin’ doin’. He said he wanted me to have my hands henna-ed and would I go up the mountain (in another direction) with him?

So we crammed ourselves into one of the many van/taxi buses that regularly run a route among all of the little villages and headed up the hill. Our destination (which at the time I didn’t know) was the village of Moulay Ibrahim. Please understand that a Berber taxi can be anything from an old Mercedes to a rusty Volkswagen to a mini bus. Taxi drivers don’t have a meter—you just barter the price ahead of time based on where you are going. I noticed that Mohamed had a concerned look on his face—maybe he was worried about putting me on one of those buses, sandwiched between complete strangers in a strange country with strange customs but I kept smiling because for me it was just part of the adventure. Once we arrived, we walked up these very old steps and came across several women who were offering henna services. He sat me down, had a rapid discussion in Arabic with the woman (I’m assuming over price) and then he left me while she went to work. He arrived shortly before she was finished (I had thick ink on both sides of both of my hands by now) and asked me if I would like to see more of the village. From there, we wandered around Moulay Ibrahim.

Mohamed wanted me to have something to remind me of him and my Berber day so he bought me a beautiful Hand of Fatima wall ornament from one of the many merchants in the Soukup (poor translation for market). It now goes everywhere with me! It was in this same outdoor market that I noticed goat carcasses hanging in a butcher’s window—I could handle that because the carcasses had been cleaned and were ready for cooking. What did bother me was when I noticed the heads of these same goats lying on the ground next to the display case. I know my mother would not have been happy!
From there, we headed back down the steep hill. Instead of taking the road, Mohamed suggested we take a “shortcut.”  This wasn’t your average shortcut. Very steep and rocky—much better suited for a mule or donkey than a human.  But I loved every minute of it. As we clambered downward, Mohamed and I talked about so many things that were important to our lives—a very humbling experience for me.
Mohamed would frequently ask me if I was hungry or wanted something to drink. I finally agreed to have mint tea at a café we found at the bottom of this craggy hill. Like the rest of the gallons of mint tea I had consumed, this was delicious. Of all the wonderful things I had to eat and drink during my trip, I think I miss the mint tea the most.
Now I could go on, but I won’t bore you with the walk, taxi, scooter and motorcycle ride that we took just to get back to the hotel. As our day together was coming to an end, I realized that I was taken with this gentleman. He escorted a complete stranger around on his day off, spent his hard-earned money on her (he wouldn’t let me pay for anything) and demonstrated a genuine kindness and generosity that I found refreshing and almost unsettling.
As I said earlier, I want to return to the area. Perhaps I could bring Piano-in-Tow with me?

Finally, a day that makes all this hard work worthwhile…

I was beginning to wonder…When I applied for a Layman Fund Grant ($10,000) to initiate my Piano in Tow project, I figured I would hear the results mid-March. Well, mid-March came and went so I was really starting to worry. (I imagined that they contacted the “winners” first and then sent the losers a snail-mail letter. So, I have been approaching my school mailbox with fear and trepidation–knowing full well that any day, I would read that my project wasn’t worthy of funding…)

This morning, when I was checking my email, I found a note from the Vice Chancellor of Research. I was convinced that funding for P-i-T was not going to happen, especially when the first paragraph of this email was all about how the committee comes to their decision–I’m thinking, “Ok, let’s get this over with.” I keep reading and a little further down there are the words “pleased” and $10,000. I read no further. Time to get on the phone and tell the world!!

Many thanks to my parents and Mr. Ben for all of their help in putting together what must have been a convincing proposal!!!

The Special Men List

Several years ago, I realized that there are several men friends in my life who are very special to me.    NOT boyfriends – these are “men friends” with whom I do not have any romantic involvement.   These are men of diverse backgrounds who don’t necessarily share any particular characteristics with each other.  They are special because they are kind, gentle, hard-working and compassionate.    But they all possess a quality hard to find nowadays in anyone—altruism, defined by the dictionary as the unselfish regard for or devotion to the welfare of others.”   Below, then is the first entry in Dr. N.A.N.’s  Special Men List.   I refer to them by their first name only to protect their identity…

First on the list is Steve.  Steve’s a camo-loving hunter who regularly gives his time, energy and tremendous skills to The Cat House.  Being a vegetarian, I usually don’t seek out the company of hunters,  but Steve is different.  He enjoys hunting but is just as happy to go out in the wilderness and not shoot anything.  For him, it is an opportunity to leave the stress of work behind and to drink lots of cheap beer.  He and his wife frequently take in kittens either too young or too wild to be placed in the shelter.  Steve watches over those kittens like they were his own children.  Nobody messes with those baby kittens.

Steve is always willing to help me with any task.  He’s moved a lot of my junk (washers, dryers, bedroom furniture, cat trees), installed a disposal, unplugged a shower drain (I didn’t want to handle the very toxic product designed for this chore), hung plastic over my windows and patched a hole in the wall where a lit candle got out of control.  He’s even taught me how to shoot various firearms (only at a target) and to appreciate the importance of the Second Amendment.

I find myself smiling when I drive up to The Cat House and see Steve’s truck.  I always feel safe when he’s around!  I don’t know what if anything I can do to repay Steve for all of his kindnesses.  But I would like him to know how much his friendship has meant to me.